Saturday, September 12, 2026

Like If I Am Peddling in Empty Space

Nova Scotia has magical imagery; its constantly changing viewscapes are best absorbed at the slow pace of a bicycle.  Imagine:

  • A fishing boat, lying on its gunwales in the mud of the harbor, awaiting the high tides of the Bay of Fundy to return, releasing it to fish
  • An old rail-trail bisecting an inland marsh and a cove with the wind-whipped Atlantic in the distance
  •  Long stretches of stunted spruce forests mixed with bogs in a tundra-like landscape
  • Colorful houses hugging the hillside dropping to an old waterfront, preserving the character of a late 1700’s fishing village that it once was
  • Acadian villages, colorfully proud of their French heritage but a few miles distant from English villages, a bit more of a black and white palette
  • Watching whales from the beach frolicking and blowing in the Bay of Fundy    

Cove on St. Mary's Bay at low tide

From the ferry crossing the Bay of Fundy from St. John, New Brunswick, the approaching coastline of Nova Scotia keeps MariyaMoneva and me silent with anticipation of the road ahead, for the horizon seems faintly flattish, level and perhaps not so difficult a challenge to ride with loaded bicycles.  It was cloudy but not raining, and we had miles to ride under a cloud deck as we started our journey on the west Fundy coastline and moved around Nova Scotia counterclockwise.

Mariya and me approaching the Port of Digby,
our third and longest trip together so far

We were quickly punished by the roller coaster of hills that easily describe the entire coastline.  Formed by creeks and rivers dropping to the sea, and the ancient dunes formed into a hilly ridge along the Digby Arm, the shoulderless road seemingly grabs your bike on the uphills and releases it into a marvelous descent, only to repeat, again and again.  After a few, it is no longer punishment, but simply the way of being – up and down, and sometimes just flat. You roll into it, expecting it, and sometimes, cursing yet another hill.

One of many seaside vistas - so peaceful!

Mariya Moneva and me, now on our third tour together (see The Joy of Unmet Expectations and The Best, Worst and Final Day), decided at the last minute to tour Nova Scotia, long a dream of hers and a repeat of several trips I'd taken through parts of the region.  We had to abandon a trip through the Canadian Rockies when the persistent wildfire smoke became too risky.  We scrambled to assemble our third trip since meeting up, coming off the ferry in Levis, Quebec, in 2022, and made a great team to share the experience of this landscape, often riding side-by-side, or separated by perhaps a kilometer, riding with our own thoughts and impressions, kind of in a Zen state.  That is how it happens.  

Riding the Salt Marsh Trail

Cape Breton is technically an island separated from mainland Nova Scotia by the Bay of Canso, a narrow stretch of water that connects the Atlantic with the Bay of St. Lawrence.  Cape Breton Highlands National Park is a place of pure magic, hugging the coastline and traversing steep hills, yet with low-traffic gravel and paved country roads in the interior.  The Cabot Trail is one of the most stunning roads, touted as world-class.  Culturally a blend of Acadian, English, and Scottish villages, the signs read in English and Gaelic; Cape Breton is saved for last in our planning.


Dense spruce forest and stream

Life on a bike is life slowed down, catching glimpses of berries – blueberries, blackberries and raspberries - growing abundantly along the roadsides, easily caught by the laser focus of Mariya, whom I would catch up to stooped down in the brambles, handing me a handful.  Life on a bike is passing a pipe of the freshest, cold spring water coming out of the mountain, constantly fast and furious, and filling our water bottles.  Some days we rode for hours without seeing any places to get more water, riding silently, as if meditating.  It is truly a Zen experience.

Nothing can stop Mariya from
picking berries.  Such skill!

On September 2nd, 18 days into our tour, at 4:09 PM, 39 miles into a 55-mile day loaded with hills, with Mariya rounding a distant corner half a kilometer ahead of me out of shouting range, the Zen was shattered. I sent her the following message:

Mechanical problem. General store.  Bike stopped.”

Fuck! And I mean a serious FUCK!

My brand-new bicycle, on its maiden tour, suddenly screeched to a halt with an awful, noisy, and stiff  resistance as I pedaled.  I quickly dismounted, crossed the street, and parked my bike against an aging, rusted signpost of a vacant building. I angrily stripped off all the panniers and gear, tossing them carelessly to the ground. I had no idea what could be causing this horrific noise.

Zen shattered.

The Wreck General Store is a lonely place, with no neighbors but vast woods, and had a sign out front: “Closed for the Season.”  A ramshackle, deteriorating structure housed an empty store on the main level, with the owner's living quarters upstairs.  It could have been a ghost-town structure, for it had no life remaining. Two vehicles were parked out front, and I could hear some distant conversation. But I had my own problem to solve.

Stuck at the store, bike and building broken down.

Anger in this desolate spot did not help.  I settled into problem-solving mode.  On closer inspection, I noticed my rear wheel was loosely misaligned and wobbly, and I discovered the retaining nut for the thru-bolt axle, along with its set screw, missing, with the axle partially backed out of its dropout slot.  I walked the roadway where I first heard the noise multiple times, searching in vain for the missing nut.

The missing threaded nut and set screw

Around then, Brent, the owner of the Wreck General Store (and perhaps an appropriate name for this situation), called to me, “Looks like you have some kind of problem.”  Since I had searched along the roadway, he figured I wasn't geo-caching.  I explained the problem, and he said I was in trouble.  “No bike shops anywhere, but you are welcome to camp behind the store, or across the street, as that is federal land.  You’d have a great sunrise over the water.”

Well, that was Plan B - not helpful - yet.  Plan A was solving the problem.

I purchased my Priority bicycle in April, a bike made in Brooklyn, New York, and only sold directly to consumers.  They had been responsive in answering my questions before I purchased, so when I was disabled and standing somewhat helplessly by the side of the road, I contacted them at 4:37 by email.  It was a workday, and we were one time zone east of New York.  They responded at 5:00 PM Atlantic time, to their immense credit. After several text messages, they confirmed replacement parts were in inventory and could ship next-day express.  In the meantime, they recommended what we could do with local parts.  I texted back that would contact them with an address.

Meanwhile, Mariya and Jim . . .

While I was fretting, Mariya had rounded the corner and continued toward Ingonish.  Cell service was virtually non-existent, with calls impossible and text messages the only hope.  She had tried to call me three times around 5:00, and finally a text came through “Hey! All good? You were able to replace the missing parts?”  In the absence of solid communication, with one lucky call going through, we agreed she should move on to Ingonish and try to find accommodation.  By 6:04, she had arrived in Ingonish, which is not a compact town, and found a vacancy at the Glenghorm Beach Resort, which she booked over the phone.  On her way there, she naturally stopped at a blueberry stand to buy some.  Jim Dunphy, an 83-year-old blueberry picker and seller, heard about the breakdown from Mariya and told her he would come pick me up in his sedan if needed.  Mariya left me a voice message to this effect at 7:23, as it was starting to get dark.

Back to Brent . . .

Brent came back out of his garage a few minutes later and told me he knew a fellow, one of his neighbors, who is interested in and rides bikes, who may have a nut.  He immediately called Adam Shore, who was in North Sydney on a family shopping errand the day before school starts, and said he would help me when he returned.  I could start walking to his house, and he would likely pass me along the way, or he could pick me up at the store.  Brent told me he was about 3km down the road.  I agreed to walk.

I pushed my bike, somewhat peacefully and hopeful in the late afternoon sun.  3km came and went, with no sign of a cabin rental site as Brent described.  I waited for a car to come by and signal.  None did.  So, I walked back the likely 4 km to the store and hoped Brent would still be there, as I hadn't thought to get Adam’s phone number to communicate directly.

I arrived at the store, and after getting Brent’s attention, he immediately came out and said: “Let’s put your bike in my daughter's truck, and I will drive you to Adam’s house.”  Then I realized Brent’s estimate of the distance was quite a bit off.  But I did hear that the store had been closed for a year and was being sold.

Then Adam . . .

Adam runs a small cabin rental business and works as a contracted trail builder.  He greeted me warmly and saw me walking but couldn't stop because his son was starting middle school the next morning and his wife (a school principal) was getting things ready for school, too.  It was busy, but he was happy to assist if he could first geek out over my new bicycle.

We walked up to his barn, a wide-open space loaded with man-cave stuff, admittedly disorganized, yet he still knew where to look.  He pulled down two mountain bikes to see if their thru-axle assembly could work.  He dragged another out of the house. He pawed through multiple boxes of miscellaneous hardware looking for nuts.  Nothing could be found that would work. This thread of hope was completely pulled to no avail.  He instead drove me to Ingonish, and on the way spoke of the new developments evolving to convert Ingonish to the Whistler of East Canada for skiing and winter activities, a process already started with slope improvement, a gondola, condominiums, and a purchase agreement to buy the Wreck General Store.

Adam's barn with my bike on a rack

I marveled once again at the kindness of strangers in Nova Scotia.

Reuniting with Mariya . . . 

Adam dropped me off in Ingonish around 8:30pm, fully dark and quite cool, and I found Mariya.  We went to the soon-to-close on-site restaurant and considered a strategy: we would book a room for the next two days in Cheticamp on the west coast of Cape Breton so I could give Priority a shipping address.  Mariya would ride ahead on the Cabot Trail to Cheticamp, and I would find a ride and haul her panniers.  This would give her the magnificent ride I had already done on an earlier trip in 2013, loaded with long climbs, steep, rapid descents, and amazing views. She should not miss this opportunity!  As we knew of a big storm bearing down in a few days, I would spend the day arranging for the parts needed to repair my axle and get my bike rolling again.

While we waited for dinner, Mariya told me about her ride here and her meeting with Jim Dunphy.  And I booked a room at the Silver Lining Inn.

The next morning, after breakfast of granola and a peaceful morning beach walk along Ingonish Bay, Mariya headed north on the Cabot Trail.  I checked in with the hotel receptionist about transportation options to Cheticamp and received a taxi referral and a tourist bus service that I could contact.  Not satisfied with those options, I really wanted somebody local who could give me a lift for some cash.


A sentinel on our morning beach walk


Back to Jim . . .

I called Jim Dunphy and explained the situation.  I wasn’t in a hurry to get there; I could be flexible on timing.  Jim remembered his interaction with Mariya and said he would call me back.  I didn't hear from him, so not wanting to pester him, I called back about 30 minutes later.  He answered, “I’m out front, where is your room?”  Jim pulled around to Room 101 with his 4-door Nissan Sentra.  We managed to load the bike with the front wheel off and the handlebars hanging out of the trunk.

Jim's car, loaded to go

Jim Dunphy is a lifelong resident of Ingonish and knows everyone.  A former ironworker, he worked jobs across Canada, primarily in bridge maintenance, until an injury cut his career short. He will not disclose where his blueberry patch is, of course.  He also cuts and sells wood.  I learned of his family, his sons and grandkids working in his son’s thriving restaurant, even taking me inside to see the 100-year-old building.  We talked about politics.  We talked about all manner of things during the 90-minute drive. I asked him what he would like for compensation.  “Pay me what you think it is worth, as I have never done this before.”  I spotted him $80 cash for his trouble plus a tank of gas.  He was pleased, and with a parting handshake, he said: “Send me a Christmas card.

Jim Dunphy

Cheticamp . . .

I arrived during the noon hour to the Silver Lining Inn, stashed the gear in the room, and then read this message from Priority: “There aren’t any true overnight options available. The fastest option I found is a 2-business-day service for $60, which would have the parts arriving Tuesday.”  

Another disaster.  We were expecting to complete our whole trip on Wednesday well beyond this place. 

I scrambled into action.  First, I checked for a bicycle repair option in town.  None, but “there used to be one right there” was a common refrain. The NAPA store next door sourced a 15mm nut (surprising the proprietor) as well as the very tiny Allen hexhead set screw.  They recommended the Goodyear Tire shop about 3km up the road to grind the hexagonal edges off the nut.  I walked there, and they did a good first grind, but upon my return, it wasn’t quite enough off to fit.  I also walked 2km the other direction to the hardware store, which luckily had a metric Allen wrench set with a tiny one to fit my new set screw.

While earnestly chasing my own repair strategy, I received this message from Mariya:

“Climbed the steepest part but having mechanical problems. Not sure why but my gear is not turning my tire anymore.  Like if I am pedaling in empty space.” 

No!  How can this be? Both broken down on consecutive days!

Reuniting with Mariya – again!

Mariya was stuck on the high, barren plateau after completing one of the route's toughest climbs when her cassette disconnected from her rear hub and rendered her bicycle inoperable.  Luckily, she was close to a Park Service emergency radio hub, placed to enable stranded people to call for assistance in this seasonally unforgiving place with no cell service.  It was raining lightly. A tree-planting crew visited her; one of them was familiar with bicycles and told her there was no repair option without a special tool.  With no room in their truck for Mariya or her bike, they contacted the Park Service, which would send someone around 6:00 to pick her up.  An ecologist specializing in insects did so, and conversation flowed from there.  She arrived at the Inn around 7:00.  We went to a local restaurant to discuss options.

The Storm

The storm arrived, literally and figuratively.  We spent Friday discussing options during persistent rain.  Could we take a taxi to one of the three bicycle rental outfits farther down the road to see if they had repair capacity?  The first two calls were dead ends, but the third seemed to recall a person near Port Hastings – Bernie – who repaired bicycles. I called Bernie. Yes, he could repair her bike, possibly with a new or used wheel or components.  With that, I called the local taxi service for the out-and-back costs: $225 and about 5 hours of total travel time, plus repair time. We didn't really know if Bernie could fix it.  Another option was for me to ride ahead with my repaired bike, and for Mariya to leapfrog via taxi over the next two days to Port Hastings.  But now the storm was getting worse.

Sitting on the bed, rain pelting, we counted down the options. Finally, Mariya and I looked at each other and, with a decent measure of regret and sadness, called the trip off and planned our return to Montreal.  Tickets and reservations made, what does one do then?  You walk 6km in the rain to a bakery to buy some decent bread for the taxi, bus, and train rides needed to return.

And in the intervening time, Raymond, the proprietor of the Inn, had a bench grinder I could use to finish off the bolt so I could safely transport the bike without losing the axle or having the wheel drop out.  I was feeling productive. My bike was finally repaired, but I had nowhere to go but home.  And that is OK.  

Grinding the bushing/nut

Finally repaired


And the tiny spring that broke on Mariya's
bike, rendering it un-rideable.

The storm raged overnight; we lost power, and flooding and downed trees made the taxi ride to Wycocomagh rough, and we barely made the bus to Truro.  Perhaps as a metaphor for the end of the trip, the storm hit our mood as well, but with the decision made and implemented, we felt this was the right and best option.  Storms always pass to clearer days ahead.

As I write this post, VIA Rail is gently rocking along its return tracks to Montreal. And as a colleague wrote to me after learning the news: 

Who needs an official finish line anyhow.  Success is in the journey.


FINAL STATS:

Mariya: 1270 kilometers, 11,420 meters elevation gain

Peter: 862 miles, 34,160' elevation gain (and 7 lbs lost on the way!)


IMAGES FROM THE TRIP


Morning fog dissipating over Mavillette Beach
Cape St. Mary
One of several campfires made by Mariya
a fire-girl if there ever was one!


Sunrise at Seabreeze Campground, perhaps the
best campsite of the trip

One of several amazing sunsets


So many lighthouses to guide our journey too!


Of course, have some ice cream!  This stand in
Guysborough was hours away from closing down 
for the season.  Free ice cream to reduce inventory!


Big bays and big sky!

Cloudy all day, but when we hopped aboard the 
Country Bay ferry, an epic cloudburst with no cover options



Yeah!  And what of it?

One of several beachwalks

And one of several impromtu naps
at least for me!

Perhaps the most iconic seacoast image


Nothing like a mountin spring to refill ones
nearly empty water bottles!



Ride on!!!

Tuesday, August 18, 2026

The Shepherd and the Birds Return

Speech given on the occasion of the full Church wedding of Aldo and Fernanda, July 18, 2026, Palmares, Costa Rica, posted here one month later. 

HAPPY ONE MONTH ANIVERSARY !!

(A continuación, las versiones en español.)

In January, at wedding #1, I told the story of the Shepherd and the Bird, an analogy that reflects how I, as the Shepherd, have come to know, support, and love the little bird Fernanda as my god-daughter.  It is published on my blog, preceding this one. Here we are today, at wedding #2, and an ending (and a new beginning) of that story follows:

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The lovebirds returned, this time to the open window of the shepherd’s cabin at the edge of the pasture,  and asked the shepherd “what are the secrets to your long marriage?

"Oh, lovebirds, that is a very deep question. Becky and I have been married for 49 years.  Marriage is a journey following a winding path, where there are always bright summits and narrow, dark valleys, wide open spaces with lovely vistas, and blind corners where you know not what lies ahead."  

"But now you are asking what the secrets to our long marriage are? Our long journey?  We offer you the five most important secrets for your journey ahead:

  1. "Talk. Talk more.  Talk truthfully, with integrityTalk to understand each other, your feelings, your thoughts.  Do not bury them within yourself.  Ask questions and avoid assumptions.  And listen.  Listen actively.  Listen deeply. Listen as much to yourself.  There will be times you must say you are sorry.  It's OK.  Forgiveness is a virtue. Gaining a true understanding of each other can only happen with good communication."
  2. "As important is silence. Recognize that you each may need, and should have, your own place of quiet reflection, either together or separately.  You do not need to be together all the time to know, to feel, the love for each other.  Give each other space to pursue what makes you happy as individuals."
  3. "Embrace acts of service toward each other.  Take the initiative to support all household work.  Share duties as equally as possible.  There is no role unique to one of you that the other cannot learn and support. Learn to cook, Aldo!"
  4. "Work through the challenges you are certain to have.  Marriage is hard but rewarding. Always try to exercise patience with each other, with challenges and hardships as they arise, and with life generally.  Most importantly, support each other in both your individual and mutual endeavors, for they are what make each of you a whole person, wanting to live a full life together.  Aldo, you have shown extraordinary patience all these years, awaiting this moment to finally marry Fernanda."
  5. "And finally, laugh together and love being together.  Live, laugh, and love every day.  Love is much more than skin deep, more than a kiss; it is rooted in your heart and your soul.  Find your love language together.  Love is beautiful.  But know this most important secret: . . . love is . . . ice cream!"

"So, love birds, Aldo and Fernanda, go forth on your journey.  Do good work, and in so doing, be happy . . . together . . . deeply in love.  Know that I love you, wish you all the measure of happiness, and thank you for allowing me into your lives, especially on this important, long-awaited day."

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Proud to walk her down the aisle with her Mom



Delivering a speech at the reception - en espanol!

And the warm embrace that followed.


Fernanda + Aldo


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En Espanol:

En enero, en la boda #1, conté la historia del Pastor y el Pajarito, una analogía que refleja cómo yo, como el Pastor, he llegado a conocer, apoyar y amar a la pequeña pajarita Fernanda como mi ahijada. La historia está publicada en mi blog. Y aquí estamos hoy, en la boda #2, donde llega el final (y también un nuevo comienzo) de esa historia:

Los pajaritos enamorados regresaron, esta vez a la ventana abierta de la cabaña del Pastor, al borde del potrero, y le preguntaron:

“Pastor, ¿cuáles son los secretos de un matrimonio tan largo?”

“Ah, pajaritos enamorados, esa es una pregunta muy profunda. Becky y yo tenemos 49 años de casados. El matrimonio es un viaje por un camino lleno de curvas, donde siempre hay cumbres iluminadas y valles angostos y oscuros, espacios abiertos con vistas preciosas, y esquinas donde no se puede ver qué viene más adelante.

"Pero ahora me preguntan: ¿cuáles son los secretos de nuestro matrimonio largo? ¿De nuestro largo camino juntos? Les compartimos los cinco secretos más importantes para el viaje que tienen por delante:

  1. "Hablen. Hablen más. Hablen con sinceridad y honestidad. Hablen para entenderse el uno al otro: sus sentimientos, sus pensamientos. No se guarden las cosas por dentro. Hagan preguntas y eviten asumir cosas sin saber. Y escuchen. Escuchen de verdad. Escuchen con atención y con el corazón. Escúchense también a ustedes mismos. Habrá momentos en los que debas pedir perdón. Está bien. El perdón es una virtud. Llegar a comprenderse profundamente solo puede suceder con una buena comunicación."
  2. "Así como es importante hablar, también lo es el silencio. Reconozcan que cada uno puede necesitar, y debe tener, su propio espacio de tranquilidad y reflexión, ya sea juntos o por separado. No tienen que estar juntos todo el tiempo para saber y sentir el amor que se tienen. Dense espacio para buscar aquello que los hace felices como individuos."
  3. "Acepten y valoren los actos de servicio hacia el otro. Tomen la iniciativa de apoyarse con todo el trabajo de la casa. Compartan las responsabilidades lo más equitativamente posible. No existe ningún papel que sea exclusivo de uno de los dos y que el otro no pueda aprender y apoyar. ¡Aprendé a cocinar, Aldo!"
  4. "Trabajen juntos para superar los retos que seguramente van a enfrentar. El matrimonio es difícil, pero también es muy gratificante. Siempre intenten tener paciencia el uno con el otro, con los desafíos y las dificultades cuando lleguen, y con la vida en general. Lo más importante: apóyense en sus proyectos personales y en sus sueños compartidos, porque esas cosas son las que hacen que cada uno de ustedes sea una persona completa, con ganas de vivir una vida plena juntos. Aldo, durante todos estos años has demostrado una paciencia extraordinaria esperando este momento para finalmente casarte con Fernanda."
  5. "Y, por último, rían juntos y disfruten de estar juntos. Vivan, rían y amen cada día. El amor es mucho más que algo superficial, mucho más que un beso; está arraigado en el corazón y en el alma. Encuentren juntos su lenguaje del amor. El amor es algo hermoso.    . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  Pero recuerden este secreto, el más importante de todos: . . . ¡el amor es helado!"

"Así que, pajaritos enamorados, Aldo y Fernanda, sigan adelante en su camino. Hagan el bien, y al hacerlo, sean felices . . . juntos . . . profundamente enamorados.

Sepan que los quiero mucho, que les deseo toda la felicidad que la vida pueda darles, y que les agradezco por permitirme ser parte de sus vidas, especialmente en este día tan importante y tan esperado.”

 

Sunday, January 18, 2026

The Shepherd and the Bird


Text of speech given at the wedding between Fernanda Ramirez and Aldo Ramirez, in a butterfly garden in Piedades Sul, Costa Rica, January 18, 2026.  The author is godparent to Fernanda.  

Scroll down for Spanish version

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Many years ago, a shepherd wandered upon a special field, a wonderful place with fertile ground for his flock. Year after year, the flock would nourish themselves on the fine grass while the shepherd watched, sitting peacefully against an old tree.  One year, as he sat there, a small bird flitted among the flock, checking in with each animal before landing on a branch above the shepherd.

“Hello, little bird. What did you see among my flock?” mused the shepherd, certain the bird could not speak.

“Oh, dear shepherd, your flock is fine. They are happy and studious,” answered the bird. “I am more worried about all the other animals in the world, many of whom suffer extreme sadness.”

Astonished that this bird could speak to him in his own language, he replied: “Indeed, little bird, this is true. Not all of my flock are happy. But what can one little bird do for an entire flock?”

“I must study why they are so unhappy, and what can be done to make all of the animals happy.  I shall talk to them. I shall listen to them. I shall hear their plaintive voices to best understand how they can be happy,” she replied.

Now astounded that the little bird could speak, he replied, “Go forth, little bird.  That is a wonderful idea, for I, as a shepherd, want all the animals in my flock, and the flocks of other shepherds, to be happy.”

And with that, the bird parted with a sweet song, headed for distant places to seek her answer. 

This went on for many years, as the shepherd always brought his flock to this magical place.  The bird would visit and talk to the shepherd under this tree.  And always the shepherd would ask what her study of the animals revealed.  The little bird would light up and tell the shepherd what she learned.  But one year, the bird said that she needed to go to a special place to study that would certainly provide answers, but it was very far away.

“Here then, little bird, take this small sack of berries in your beak to give you the energy needed to fly to this important place.  It must be done.  We all want a happy flock.”

And so, with gratitude in her big heart, she flew off to study.

Then, after a few years, two birds appeared on the branch.

“Dear shepherd, I have been studying very hard and helping animals whenever I could, thanks to your sack of berries that took me far away to study.  Today, I brought my friend.  We have flown over many pastures to get here.  Why do you come every year to this one pasture?”

“Little birds, I come because the grass for my flock is so fertile. It is well known to me.  I am comfortable here,” he replied.

“Come, dear shepherd.  Leave your flock for just a moment, they will be content in the field, and let us take you to other, magical places.  Places filled with beauty, with majesty, with many wonderful animals.”

And so, for many years, the shepherd would follow these two birds, seeing the places they described, listening to the sounds of nature itself, seeing the grandeur that is this part of the world. And he also took particular note of the fondness the two little birds had for each other, catching moments when their eyes would connect with adoration, when their flight was in perfect synchrony, gliding with the gentle breezes as if dancing. And so, he called them lovebirds.

This year, the shepherd sits in this very place, telling you this marvelous tale of these lovebirds, as he and all the flock here assembled are witnesses to their marriage.  But this shepherd is also a bit wistful, knowing that when he brings his flock back to this magical pasture, these love birds may not be on that branch of the old tree. Rather, they will be together, far away, continuing her mission to help other unhappy animals find peace and, of course, doing so in love with each other. 

“Fly onward, Aldo and Fernanda, my little birds, my lovebirds, for it is good work you will do.  It must be done.  Love what you do, and in so doing, love each other in a deep, abiding way. This old shepherd wishes you lifelong happiness.  Thanks for talking to me from that branch, for accepting my sack of berries as you pursued your path, and for letting me into your lives.”

"I love you both."

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Pictures of the wedding, January 18, 2026



Walking Fernanda down the aisle with her
sister, Noelia.  A true honor for me.


Exchanging rings after reading their vows

 

Reading the text of my speech - in Spanish 


Mr. and Mrs. Ramirez


Off to start their life together.

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El Pastor y La Pajarita

Hace muchos años, un pastor llegó a un campo especial, un lugar maravilloso con tierra fértil para su rebaño. Año tras año, el rebaño se alimentaba del buen pasto mientras el pastor observaba, sentado tranquilamente junto a un árbol viejo. Un año, mientras estaba allí, una pajarita revoloteó entre el rebaño, saludando a cada animal antes de posarse en una rama sobre el pastor.

Hola, pajarita. ¿Qué viste entre mi rebaño? reflexionó el pastor, seguro de que el ave no podía hablar.

”Ay, querido pastor, su rebaño está bien. Están contentos y aplicados” respondió la pajarita. “Me preocupan más todos los otros animales del mundo, muchos de los cuales sufren una tristeza profunda”.

Asombrado de que el ave pudiera hablarle en su propio idioma, respondió:

En efecto, pajarita, eso es cierto. No todos los animales son felices. Pero ¿qué puede hacer una pajarita por un rebaño entero?

Debo estudiar por qué están tan tristes y qué se puede hacer para que todos los animales sean felices. Hablaré con ellos. Los escucharé. Oiré sus voces dolientes para comprender mejor cómo pueden ser felices” contestó ella.

Ahora, completamente maravillado, el pastor dijo:

Vaya entonces, pajarita. Es una idea maravillosa, porque yo, como pastor, quiero que todos los animales de mi rebaño, y de los rebaños de otros pastores, sean felices”.

Y con eso, el ave se despidió con un canto dulce y partió hacia lugares lejanos en busca de respuestas.

Esto continuó por muchos años, pues el pastor siempre llevaba a su rebaño a este lugar mágico. La pajarita lo visitaba y conversaban bajo el árbol. Y siempre el pastor preguntaba qué había revelado su estudio de los animales. La pajarita se emocionaba y le contaba lo aprendido. Pero un año, el ave le dijo que necesitaba ir a un lugar especial de estudio que, sin duda, le daría respuestas, aunque quedaba muy lejos.

Entonces, pajarita, lleve este pequeño saco de bayas en el pico para darle la energía necesaria para volar hasta ese lugar tan importante. Debe hacerse. Todos queremos un rebaño feliz”.

Y así, con gratitud en su gran corazón, ella voló para estudiar.

Después de algunos años, dos aves aparecieron en la rama.

Querido pastor, he estudiado con mucho empeño y he ayudado a los animales siempre que pude, gracias a su saco de bayas que me llevó tan lejos para aprender. Hoy traje a mi amigo. Hemos volado sobre muchos campos y pastizales para llegar hasta aquí. ¿Por qué viene usted cada año a este mismo campo?

Pajaritos, vengo porque el pasto para mi rebaño es muy fértil en este campo. Lo conozco bien. Me siento cómodo aquí respondió.

Venga, querido pastor. Deje su rebaño solo un momento; estarán contentos en el campo. Permítanos llevarlo a otros lugares mágicos. Lugares llenos de belleza, de majestuosidad, con muchos animales maravillosos.”

Y así, durante muchos años, el pastor siguió a estas dos aves, viendo los lugares que describían, escuchando los sonidos de la naturaleza misma y contemplando la grandeza de esta parte del mundo. También notó con especial cariño el afecto que se tenían los dos pajaritos: los momentos en que sus miradas se encontraban con adoración, cuando volaban en perfecta sincronía, deslizándose con las brisas suaves como si bailaran. Por eso, los llamó TORTOLITOS.

Este año, el pastor se sienta en este mismo lugar y les cuenta esta historia maravillosa de estos tortolitos, mientras él y todo el rebaño aquí reunido son testigos de su matrimonio. Pero el pastor también siente un dejo de nostalgia, sabiendo que cuando regrese con su rebaño a este campo mágico, quizá los tortolitos ya no estén en la rama del viejo árbol. Más bien, estarán juntos, lejos de aquí, continuando la misión de ella de ayudar a otros animales tristes a encontrar la paz y, por supuesto, haciéndolos enamorados el uno del otro.

“Vuelen adelante, Aldo y Fernanda, mis pajaritos, mis tortolitos, porque el trabajo que harán será bueno. Debe hacerse. Amen lo que hagan y, al hacerlo, ámense mutuamente de una manera profunda y duradera. Este viejo pastor les desea felicidad para toda la vida. Gracias por hablar conmigo desde esa rama, por aceptar mi saco de bayas mientras seguían su camino y por dejarme ser parte desus vidas.

Los quiero a ambos.

Gracias.

 

Sunday, December 28, 2025

Three Degrees of Separation

Three unique commencements attended in 2025, in various locations in the world, are listed in order, as follows:

Dr. Laura Anne Hilger
January 15th, 2025
University of Bath, United Kingdom
Doctorate in Social Policy Research and Methods
Thesis: Mind the Gap: Social Policymaking in the UK in Theory and Practice


Ms. Maria Fernanda Rojas Ramirez
May 15th, 2025
Pontificia Universidad Catolica de Chile, Santiago
Magister en Trabajo Social (Master of Social Work – With High Distinction)

Thesis:  Experience of Being Affected by a Peer's Suicide: Social Networks, Social Support and Community Resilience in University Students

 

Dr. Ryan Peter Hilger
December 19th, 2025
Colorado State University, Fort Collins
Doctorate in Engineering Systems Management
Thesis: An Algorithmic Semantic Analysis of Cyber Security and Resilience Guidance Against Interdisciplinary Understanding of Resilience Concepts Across Time and Scale

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Now that I have advertised the nature of this blog post, some proud elaboration is necessary.  The details:

January 15, 2025: Laura Hilger

I departed from my Study Abroad trip with my students from Costa Rica a few days early to catch a long flight to London with little down time, and took the train with my wife Becky and our daughter to Bath a few hours west of London.  A charming, medieval town south of the Cotswolds, Becky and I had been here before, as the center of the city, just outside the Abbey, is the official termination of the Cotswold Way national trail.  It is home to ancient Roman-era natural baths, surrounded by hills and nestled along the River Avon.  The Abbey has been a site of worship since 675 AD and, over the centuries of its transformation, has been elevated to cathedral status.  Bath Abby was closed under Henry VIII in 1539 and left to decay. It was given to the City of Bath as a parish church, and in 1573, Queen Elizabeth I granted permission for the city to raise money to restore the abbey, which was completed in 1620.  Largely intact today with several additions and remodels over the intervening period, the structure is impressive.

And here we were, standing outside the Abbey, awaiting entry to witness Laura’s commencement:

 

Magnificent doors to pass through

Indeed, this was a mesmerizing experience for me.  I have been a platform guest at the University of Minnesota commencement, which we host every Spring, where there always seems to be a measure of pomp and circumstance to a commencement event.  But, while similar in format, it was wholly different in majestic effect to sit several rows from the front of the makeshift stage, centered in the Abbey, and well positioned to see the parade of graduates.  With the natural redundancy of the parade, one could easily be distracted by the sheer beauty and grace of the Abbey, to wonder what all has happened herein, and upon whose tombs we were sitting.

The Abbey is splendid in its Gothic form

But then the announcer called out Laura Anne Hilger, and we witnessed her march, receive her doctoral hood, and be officiated by none other than Prince Edward, the Duke of Edinburgh, and the Chancellor of the University.  As one of the last students to walk, and with a rather lengthy name on her degree, Prince Edward was caught having to ask the announcer to restate the degree so he could properly repeat it in front of Laura – a moment of humor for all.  And moments later, it was all over, having moved outside onto the square. 

Prince Edward (R) conferring her degree

We wandered the streets and byways with Laura up to campus, in all her regalia, to meet with her advisers.  It had a strange mix of Hogwarts and hiking, crossing fields, walking narrow alleys, and arriving at the more modern university campus high up on the surrounding hillside, overlooking the abbey. 

In a way, the walk was a metaphor for her journey of learning, culminating at a high pinnacle with a view of the path travelled.  The end of an academic journey, but not the end of learning.


May 15, 2025:  Fernanda Rojas

Fernanda is my (informal) goddaughter from Costa Rica, whom I have known since 2017 when she first joined our Study Abroad team in San Ramon, serving as a helper, interpreter, and guide for all the students.   (See posts  Making a Difference and especially about her story in Semicolon;)  Nearly four years ago, after receiving her social work license, she was employed by an organization that assists LGBTIQ immigrants.  She was laid off quite suddenly and without much reason, except that it was likely due to budget cuts.  Interested in education, she began researching higher learning options and applied for a scholarship at Pontificia Universidad Catolica de Chile, and waited.

Then, she began working at a boy’s home that required a social worker by their license, but in a role the (male) managers deemed unnecessary except as a dormitory mom.  We had many phone calls at that time, sharing the stress of the situation, living remotely alone within a toxic work environment, yet personally successful in establishing meaningful relationships with the adolescent boys.  What we expected could happen, did - she was released.  A call to share the news is one I shall not forget, for we decided now was the best time to take the leap to graduate school and continue to pursue her research and study of social work focused on suicide.  And I would support her by closing the financial gap not covered by the scholarship, and including "rice and beans."

Arriving in Santiago, I immediately embarked on a journey with my nephew Colin to Easter Island, a trip of a lifetime opportune in its timing, coincident with Fernanda’s graduation (and a whole other story - see Postscript below).  Returning after a few days, Fernanda and I toured the city, a place I had not visited since Colin was married many years ago.  We walked.  We talked, mostly about the future, the next steps, her pursuit of her doctorate, and her relationship with Aldo, her sweetheart.  You could call it fatherly stuff.

This is NOT Aldo!  
Touring in Valparaiso

Timed to arrive on campus coincident to and meet Fernanda, I did not immediately recognize her in the crowd, having been "dolled up" a bit and without glasses for the ceremony (for which she teased me!).  I was dispatched to the entrance of the auditorium a bit early, found a seat along the side aisle about a third of the way from the front, not knowing if this was the best perch.  I was soon discovered by Fernanda’s landlord, who sat next to me. Again, like our commencements, the platform guests arrive, followed by all the students, graduate and undergraduate, from the school of social work. So naturally, I was watching for Fernanda, and close to the end of the line we spotted each other as she descended the aisle and took her seat, but a few away from mine in the row opposite, across the aisle.  Such good fortune as we could share happy glances. 

I could not understand the speeches, but perhaps an occasional word here or there, but I had a good sense of this pomp and circumstance.  I was well positioned to see Fernanda as she lined up to file onto the stage, the second-to-last student to cross.  

First walk across the stage: receiving her diploma

I was filming her procession and, like all the other students, waiting with the camera rolling for her to come back up my aisle to her seat.  But she did not come!  The last students came by, and then nothing.  Peering to the front, she was hustled to a seat in the front row, where I lost a clear view of her.

As I pondered the situation, the leader of the school continued to speak,  which I did not understand, but I decided this must be a moment and a connection to the mystery.  With her landlord giving me some translation but also not knowing what was coming, she was soon called up to the stage to hearty applause, having been awarded the top thesis in her class!

Second walk across the stage:
Top Thesis Award plus flowers!

I was so proud!  Beaming, I was overcome by my own emotion and pride, knowing how much this education, all education, has meant to her, and I am proud to have helped her along the way.  

At the reception afterward - both pride and wine!

And now, she chases her PhD at the University of Chile in Santiago while serving as a keynote or panelist at professional conferences, being asked to author a book chapter, conducting many workshops (including for my study abroad students), and participating in other professional and research-based engagements typically afforded to those with many more years of experience.  Specializing in training about suicide awareness, I know that she will save many people and must be supported.


December 19th, 2025: Ryan Hilger

Ryan tends to be a person of few words but abundant thoughts and a clear path forward.  A career officer serving as a Commander in the Navy, he is an Engineering Duty Officer and lives with his family in the Washington, DC area. His wife, Heather, is working toward her Master's Degree in counseling, while minding our two grandchildren, Charlotte (almost 13) and Henry (10).  Upon a recent visit to their home for Thanksgiving, it became clear to me that this family is focused on education. Still, I wonder how they manage multiple degree pursuits, the challenges of homeschooling both children with their, shall we say, constantly changing personalities!

And so it was that we met at Denver International Airport a few weeks ago, a matter of minutes apart on separate flights, and with a rented car, headed north toward Fort Collins.  First, we detoured to take an 11-mile route through the Rocky Mountain Arsenal National Wildlife Refuge.  This site once bustled with munitions and chemical production during World War II, constructed after Pearl Harbor, and finally closed in 1992. Heavily contaminated, the site has been cleaned up and restored to a wildlife refuge under the guidance of the US Fish and Wildlife Service since 2010.  A batch of new residents was transferred to the site in 2007 – a herd of wild buffalo- and has proliferated into quite a large herd.

No petting these creatures

This diversion is but one of four examples of education central to this family experienced on this trip – an interactive approach to learning with many direct field experiences.   The second was a visit to Wings Over the Rockies, an air and space museum housed in a cavernous old airplane hangar on the former Lowry Air Force base, a technical services training base that was once the first site of the Air Force Academy. 

The scale of the clear-span hangar was impressive
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The third was a drive through Rocky Mountain National Park, at least the roads that were open.  Getting a fill of “whiteness” before Christmas, and with this as our family Christmas gathering a few days early, the majesty of the emerging mountains as one drives higher and higher intrigued the kids, constantly on the lookout for the emerging views.  Of course, stopping at the historic Stanley Hotel in Estes Park, considered one of the most haunted places in the country and where the horror movie “The Shining” took place, was a must-see for Henry. I suppose this is still educational!

A magnificent valley view toward Deer Mountain. 

The fourth was a visit to the Denver Zoo, always a favorite of the kids to see animals. Learning, it seems, takes all forms of stimulation.  Long interested in aviation and animals, the kids were especially drawn to seeing buffalo, prairie dogs, coyotes, mountains, as well as spacecraft, airplanes, and, perhaps, a gift shop!  

An engaging academic experience!

It was time, however, to honor Ryan’s accomplishment.  Within the tight confines of Moby Arena, the basketball pavilion, we had no choice but to sit in the cramped stands for a distant view of the event. Much more perfunctory, the commencement celebration included only graduate students from across campus programs.  And, as is typical, the march across the platform was to receive the diploma cover, shake a few hands, and likely get a photo taken.  Absent a keynote speaker, the event moved efficiently, processing several hundred students; Ryan one of the early ones.  He was “hooded” by his thesis adviser on the platform, a common practice for PhD students. 

Ryan's hooding - as seen from the distant seats

And that was it!  In all three cases, of course, celebrations were had, as they should be.  Commencement following the completion of any degree is worth honoring.  Education itself is worth honoring – indeed, sometimes we do not do enough to honor teachers and their role in making this happen for students.  Or, in Ryan and Heather’s case, honoring them for teaching our grandkids so well, with genuine interactive engagements, and showing the kids where education can take them.  

 

L to R: Henry (10), Heather, Ryan and Charlotte (nearly 13)

Proud?  Oh yes!  
Congratulations to all three of you!
 


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POSTSCRIPT - Easter Island

As I mentioned, I did tour Easter Island whilst in Chile, flying out to meet him on May 8th.  Colin is a travel agent for a high-end agency, and has never been to Easter Island to check into accommodations.  When I told him I would be coming, he had a trip scheduled the week before and invited me along.  I could not say no!  It was an amazing experience, especially the hundreds of Moai sculptures.  Ten annotated images follow:

Final approach to the island with a volcanic crater
Orongo in foreground

Afternoon ride along the west coast near Ahu Te Peu.


Sunset with the moai at Mirador Hanga Kioe

Went fishing. Caught nothing but great views of the 
the Islote Motu Kao Kao and Moto nui on the south tip.

The famous stand of moai at AhuTongariki, looking inward
to protect the former village site.


Ahh, yes!  Summiting Cero Terevaka with
great views

The view from Cero Teravaka before a wild 
descent to Hanga Roa

Riding mud pit backtrails to . . .

The most famous site on the island: the quarry where moai
were carved, then moved, at Moai Tukuturi

A final view prior to departure: the rim overlooking
Islote Motu Kao Kao and Moto nui at Orongo,